It's likely that you will be attending bridal showers, bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinners, and weddings galore over the summer - especially if you are in the wedding party.
Being a bridesmaid or maid of honor is a tremendous honor. But, let's be honest, it's also a lot of work since weddings just seem to be getting bigger and bigger. I personally am not a naysayer in this regard - I say, let's do this thing. Because I will never turn down an opportunity to party plan and drink.
One of my favorite wedding-related events is a lingerie shower. I've been to a few and my maid of honor (who was the most amazing maid of honor ever) hosted one for me. They are insanely fun and very easy to put together. Here are some tips on planning your favorite bride's lingerie shower:
1. Consider hosting the shower as part of the bachelorette party. This is how my maid of honor organized things and it worked perfectly. I first had a regular bridal shower that my mother and mother-in-law could attend (because who wants your mom to see your lingerie). And to make it easier on my guests (so they didn't feel compelled to go to a zillion wedding events) my maid of honor had my lingerie shower be the daytime activity of my bachelorette weekend. It worked out perfectly (and the lingerie shower activities were an excellent transition into bachelorette night fun).
2. GAMES! A few of my favorite games were match-or-mojito (the guests bring lingerie that is somehow relevant* to their relationship with the bride and she has to match the gift to the guest - if she gets it wrong, she drinks!); and the groom's choice (the bride tries the lingerie on over top of her clothes and the maid of honor texts pictures of each outfit to the groom and whoever purchased the groom's favorite wins a prize).
*My maid of honor gave me unicorn-themed lingerie. I mean, how amazing is that?
3. Little touches. Go to pinterest or etsy for ideas on invitations and decorations. The food can be similar to bachelorette party fare (ladies, we all know what that means).
But here are two my favorite little touches. First, ask the groom to write the thank you notes for the gifts. My husband did this. It was hysterical, he wrote things like, "Dear Jessica - that's what's up" or "Dear Anastasia - way to be a team player." My friends thought it was both hilarious and also super cute.
Second, ask the groom if he wants to secretly send a lingerie gift for the shower. He can get something that he wants the bride to wear on their honeymoon or wedding night, and it can be the last present she opens. I attended a shower where the groom did this and it was so sweet and the bride was so happy and surprised.
Have your own tips? Be sure to comment below!
As I mentioned last week, two of my favorite people in the world got engaged.
Normally, I'm a big card gal - it's the Southerner in me. I love handwritten letters and cards, and so as soon as I got off the phone with the gorgeous bride-to-be, I hopped on over to the store to get the couple a congratulatory card. But for these two, I could do better than that.
(The groom is my husband's cousin and he was kind enough to be one of our groomsmen - and he and his fiancee' caught the garter and bouquet at our wedding. I mean, how cute is that right?)
Since we had plans to go to NY to celebrate my brother-in-law's birthday that weekend, I made a Groom Survival Kit and a Bride Bag to take to the happy couple. The best part about these little gifts is that they are completely customizable. The Groom Survival Kit contains airline bottles of the alcohol coupled with the appropriate mixer (for this one I used rum and coke). The Bride Bag had wedding magazines, a white silk robe that had Bride embroidered on the back, and a bottle of pink champagne. You can easily pop in some nail polish, jewelry, makeup, etc. Have fun with it!
Wedding season is upon us, and you guys know how much I love weddings. While I've written many posts to help brides with their planning, this one is for you wonderful maids of honor and bridesmaids. Since it is your job to host the bridal shower and bachelorette party, and these days everybody is busy with everything 24/7, why not take the easy way out and kill two birds with one stone by serving boozy desserts at your bride's parties? Because the only thing I love more than weddings is cupcakes topped with champagne icing and vodka-infused fruit! Get all the recipes you need here, here, and here. Have fun!
As I was gushing about all things wedding planning with the bride-to-be (who is going to be THE most gorgeous bride, by the way) I got myself all worked up and excited about the many weddings my husband and I have on our calendar.
If you're like us, you probably have at least one ceremony you are attending this summer, since June through August has become official wedding season. While you may be a veteran wedding attendee, I have found that even the best of us need a reminder on how to be a good guest. So follow the tips below to ensure that you don't miss an etiquette beat this summer.
1. For the love of God, R.S.V.P.
There are a few things in life that aren't optional - RSVPing to a wedding is one of them. While it may seem annoying to be receiving reminder emails, calls, and texts from the Best Man and Maid of Honor (because yes, this is their job) you know what is even more annoying? The bride and groom (or their parents) having to spend upwards of $150 PER PERSON for each person who does not RSVP, just in case that person decides to show up on the big day. And that $150 probably just covers the per person food and drink cost - not the table setting, extra table and chairs, favors, centerpieces, programs, etc.
So the moral of the story is don't be a jerk - RSVP ASAP.
2. Keep any and all suggestions, recommendations, complaints, TO YOURSELF.
It is basically guaranteed that, at least at one point during the reception, someone is going to ask you if you are having a good time. It may be the bride or groom, their parents, or the person at your table who you don't know. The question is polite and a good conversation starter or ice breaker. Bottom line: you'll hear it.
So when you do, the correct response is: "Yes! The flowers/bride/venue/music/food is delightful/beautiful/awesome/amazing/delicious." Note that there is NO 'but...' following that statement.
No one really cares if you don't like the flowers. No one really cares that you didn't like the chicken. No one really cares that you think the open bar (which already costs $15,000) should have included three choices of tequila instead of just two. No one cares, but trust me, the bride and groom will hear about it and will think you're being a d*ck.
3. Bring a gift.
You may think this would be a no-brainer but you would be wrong. Every single wedding I have attended and/or participated in has at least one (if not two or three) guests who do not give the couple a gift. Look, money is tight for everyone so if the gift is a homemade card and a Starbucks gift card then that's fine. And if you accidentally forget your gift, that's also fine since we are all human and etiquette dictates that you technically have one year to send it - just do not forget it.
Have your own tips to share? Be sure to comment below!
Oh my sweet, demure, polite Southern Belle. You've made an excellent decision! I know, you may be disappointed that your intended doesn't know the difference between a grit and a hush puppy. But don't think Scarlett O'Hara or the Tarleton brothers are rolling over in their Southern graves. Here are 3 reasons why marrying a yankee will be the best thing you ever did.
Buying wedding presents can be fun - because who doesn't love the homewares section of department stores? But if you are invited to attend (or participate in) several weddings a year, you get kinda tired of the whole matching-towels and his/her champagne flute thing. And it can get a little expensive. Plus, maybe someone very special to you is getting married this year, like your best friend or your favorite cousin, and you don't want to give her something from her registry that you know she doesn't want and only added because her mother told her she had to.
So you want to do something extra special for that person but don't know where to look?
Supposedly once you get married you are supposed to not like going to weddings. I don't know when or how that became a thing but apparently it did. Well, I'm not about that life because I still love weddings, and probably always will - here's why:
Have your own reasons for loving (or avoiding) weddings? Be sure to comment below!
Hey fellas. Did you know that in addition to the pretty ring you gave your intended, society dictates that you should also provide her with a token of your affection on the Big Day? Don't worry, I've got you covered.